Self Care

Surrounding Yourself with Positive People

A few weeks back, after an engaging Meetup group, Chris had some thoughts on the benefits of surrounding yourself with positive people.



Hi, this is Chris Laning from the Positive Grounding blog at Yes, I’m sitting at a car it’s nighttime. I know it’s weird. It’s odd, but I just had to share this with you.

I just got back from a meetup group. And I’m flying high! This is a meetup group that just started last month in Greensboro, North Carolina. And it’s really for people who are starting or have started their own online businesses.

That’s not what I’m talking about here now. But what I did find in that group is a bunch of positive people. I mean, these are people that have vision and goals, and they’re positive they are going to get there. I mean in some cases literally.

For instance the founder of the group, the organizer of the group, she actually has several resources around how positive thought can really help you when you’re facing difficult medical conditions and how it can get you through it.

Another woman in the group actually says she’s had experiences where positive thought has cured her. Now I know you might take that with a grain of salt, but you know what? I started thinking and if that’s actually been her experience, that positive thought has cured her, maybe there’s something to that and maybe we’re just being skeptical.

There was another gentleman there tonight who’s written resources about how laughter can play an integral role in healing. And he himself is a medical doctor.

So, those are actual literal examples of positivity that people have bringing to that meeting.

There were several other individuals there all with their own ideas and goal and then we’re sitting there watching all these resources from entrepreneurs who’ve been successful talking about how they did it and the things that they’ve done that have worked for them and how a lot of times it was fear that held them back. I think they were pointing out that some of the biggest fears are fear of failure, fear of public speaking, and in many cases fear of success. And that holds so many people back.

They said that you get these scenarios in your head, those worst-case scenarios of how it’s gonna go wrong, what’s gonna happen, when it’s gonna be a failure and that when you think about that over and over and over again, you start to believe it.

So I started thinking why don’t we flip that script a little bit. And I know this isn’t necessarily an original thought by me, but then again how many original thoughts can I really have? But what if we flip that script? Instead of constantly dwelling on the negative. What’s gonna go wrong? Let’s dream and think about what could possibly go right. No! What’s going to go right!

We may not know how we’re gonna get there, but we know that we can get there. It may be a little different than what we expected but we can still get to where we want to go. Whether that’s starting a business or just getting to a different point in our life. Keeping that positive thought over and over again maybe we’ll actually start to believe it, if we don’t already.

So I would say the biggest takeaway from this meeting group tonight though, is just be around people that are positive! Now that’s not to say get the negative people out of your life because you know what? You could be a positive influence on them. But just make sure that during the course of the week you find somewhere that you can go whether it’s a meetup group, or a faith-based group or church or even just some very positive thinking family members.

We can just be around people who have that positive thought. Because positivity, believe it or not can really rub off. Unfortunately, not as quickly as negativity can. So keep it positive people!

I’m Chris Laning from the Positive Grounding blog at Talk to you next time.

Sleep……who needs it?

Sleep…..who needs it?

The answer to the question that this blog post title poses should be pretty obvious. We all need sleep! And not just a little bit of it.

But as we get busier in life, especially when working on new projects or trying to better ourselves, it becomes so easy to sacrifice a few hours of sleep for a few more hours of work.

And why not? Especially if we’re trying to live a more positive life. Those few extra hours that we work on that project may make us more successful. And if we are more successful, aren’t we going to be happier and more positive?

I learned a long time ago that you cannot discount the power of sleep. Many years ago when working on a project I had a huge passion for I was putting in over 40 hours a week. This was on top of the 40+ hours a week I was putting in on my day job. It was also on top of the time involved in being a parent and in participating in numerous other activities.  My drive to be successful in all these led me to reduce my sleep time to a mere 2 to 3 hours a night! Let’s just say it didn’t really work out.

These days, despite having huge dreams and numerous projects I’m working on, I still try to make sure I leave enough time for sleep. Why is it so important? Lack of sleep definitely can have a negative effect on our mood. And at a time when we are trying to focus on being more positive, lack of sleep makes that infinitely harder.  Our tempers are so much shorter. That inability to keep our temper hampers our ability to be positive. It is so easy to flip out and make everything negative when you’re tired.

As I write this, it is actually getting pretty late. I had a successful day. I accomplished everything on my list. But I am very very tired.  My creative mind is telling me to push on, to add more tasks to the list. After all, I have got a lot to accomplish and only a little time to do it in.

But I also remember that I don’t like the being negative. I don’t like having a quick temper. And truth be told, you’re much more creative when your mind is rested and refreshed.

So resist the temptation. Make sure you go to bed on time. Make sure that you make sleep a priority. Just don’t make it too much of a priority! Because, you do have to get something done every once in a while.