My wife and I recently changed churches in an effort to find that church that really feels like home. As I discussed in the video The Awkward Path: Feeling at Home released the other day, finding that right fit can be difficult. In our case, we are looking for a church where we not only feel at home but when where we can establish some strong friendships to boot.
But the trick is how best to begin to make those connections. Simply shaking hands with people on a Sunday morning is not likely to do the trick. You need to find situations where you can spend greater time with them.
In the video The Awkward Path: Meeting People I talked about a program at the church we started attending that sought to bring random church members together and have them commit to having dinner together 4 times in six months. It is certainly one way to help meet people. But we still needed to do more.
After seeing occasional mentions in the bulletin about a program called “Bags of Blessings”, a ministry that provided bag lunches to economically disadvantaged families with children, I decided I might be able to help there. They meet on Wednesday mornings at 9 am to pack the bags and then deliver them.
In a future post, I will share more about what happened in that first experience. But suffice it to say I met some people there. One of whom invited me to the Missions committee meeting the next night. Both my wife and I attended meeting that and learned about future opportunities to serve in which we will likely take part.
It also inspired us to try a Sunday School class the next week, one that was billed as making mission work part of their dedication. How did that go? Another post will detail that.
The long and short of it is just going to church every Sunday and expecting to make friends and connections is wishful thinking. You will learn more about someone working beside them doing the Lord’s work. It can be intimidating to try, but likely will prove to be fruitful. Not only in the service you provided for others but in finding community for yourself.