The Awkward Path: Meeting People

In this episode Chris talks a cool way to meet others in the church and more relaxed, and less awkward way.


Hi, I’m Chris Laning. And welcome back to “The Awkward Path”.

Now recently my wife and I began attending a new church because we’re trying to find a place where we can get to know some more people and make some friends within the church.

Well this church that we started attending has a program designed explicitly to do that. It’s a simple concept that takes four couples or eight individuals or a mixture thereof, eight people in total, and gives them the charge of just meeting four times in six months to have a meal together. That’s it! Sit down have a meal together four times in a six-month period.

Well, we tried that program and we actually went to the first one the other day. And it was so interesting because we got to meet people there and talk to people there who we probably would have never actually had the opportunity to talk to in church.

Let’s face it, when you’re there on a Sunday morning for a service or Saturday evening for a service,you kind of have other things to do. You’re going in. You’re worshiping. You’re running off to Sunday school or to other small groups. And then you’re leaving to go home and get on with the rest of your day. It’s not the best time to just sit back and have a casual conversation with someone.

But this program actually gives you that opportunity. And we found it so enjoyable because when you’re sitting there having dinner with people, you want to find out about these people, particularly when you’ve never met them before. So you talk. And you learn. And you find out things that you have in common.You also find out interesting things about them.

And the reality is you’re gonna probably remember that. And you’re gonna hold on to that.

Now whether you ultimately
become close friends from this…who knows? But it gives you an opportunity to get to know somebody better outside of the church setting.

I think for those of us who are often awkward in church settings this is actually ideal! Because we won’t feel that pressure. We won’t feel like we have to act all “churchy” or say the right things. We can just relax and be ourselves.

So I would encourage you if you can find a program like that, or convince your church to start something similar. Find ways to interact with people from your church but outside of the church environment. Because if you do that, you’re probably going to make stronger connections. And those stronger connections are going to help you feel more comfortable with the church, and with your walk with God.

For “The Awkward Path”, I’m Chris Laning. I’ll see you next time.

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